Things Currently Pissing Me Off:
1. Being too intimidating for nice guys to even consider dating
me. That’s what I heard most recently.
So, what, now just because I’m not some dumb bimbo, I get stuck with
assholes? Nice guys, grow a pair. I’m competent. I’m capable. I’m educated. I’m
ambitious. I understand that it apparently comes off as aggressive and bitchy
because I’m a woman. Get over it. Just because I’m not some damsel in distress
at all times does not mean I don’t want to feel wanted or needed. Being a
strong woman does not mean I don’t have weaknesses. I’m still just as
vulnerable as the next woman to having my heart broken. The only difference is
that I do my best to keep it together and keep my emotions in check when I’m in
public. It doesn’t mean I’m not hurting. It doesn’t mean I don’t care.
2. Flirting, or my inability to do so. I never quite acquired
the skill that so many of my sex just naturally have. I am awkward. I would
rather have a real and honest conversation any day than just flirt. It’s so
fake, so phony, such bullshit. I find it fun and amusing for, oh, about
five-ten minutes, then I’m over it. At that point, I want to know who you
actually are so I can determine if you’re worth my time. The problem is most
guys think that means I don’t like them. So, I don’t even get considered for a
date or a drink. Or maybe they just don’t like me. I don’t know. I’ve posted
before about how I feel about all of this, but it’s been bugging me much more
recently, so I’m just restating it. For more, see the post back in June or July.
3. All of these recent posts poking fun at overweight
women. How dare you make fun of
very serious issues in these people’s lives. It’s almost impossible to be fat
in this society and be comfortable, but now, you have to take pictures and put
your degrading comments on them? And then the rest of you share them and laugh?
You’re my friends and my relatives. Does that mean you think I, too, deserve to
have my photo taken at an unflattering angle and posted all over the internet
with some, oh degrading isn’t even the word- it’s too nice for crap you’re
pulling, some heartless, insensitive joke on it? Because that is all I can think
when I see them. It tells me you think I deserve the same fate. And it makes me
not want to deal with you.
4. The glorification of busy, and everyone’s attempts to out-do
each other’s busy. WE ARE ALL BUSY. WE ALL HAVE LIVES. Saying you can’t see
someone, do something, or whatever because you are always too busy just means
you don’t care. Don’t get me wrong, I know there are times when you really are
too busy to deal with anything but your own insane life, but there are also
times when you’re not and you just excuse it away as too busy. When something
or someone truly matters, you need to make the time. You never know when you
will lose the chance to do so again. Also, quit trying to tell me your busy it
more important or busier than someone else’s busy. Each and every one of us has
our own life to lead and purpose to fulfill. It means that right now, I am a
teacher, a daughter, a friend, a granddaughter, a sister, a stepdaughter, a
colleague, a traveler, and whatever other labels currently apply. I cannot and
will not compete with you and your busy life as a mother, a grad student, a
lawyer, a wife, a nurse, a doctor, a social worker, a writer, and whatever
other labels currently apply to you. I will respect your life and hope that you
respect mine, and I will not try to undermine your moments of insanity by
claiming that mine are worse. No one wants to hear that, they just want to be
heard. And I hope that if we each care about each other, we will find the time
in our busy lives to spend time together.
5. Name-calling, blaming everyone else, and all the issues that
come with that. This applies to so many things in our society. Quit focusing on
who is at fault and start figuring out what to do to solve the problem. I don’t
care if it’s the government shutdown, the typhoon, education issues, or your
own personal issues. We waste more time trying to assign blame for our problems
than we do trying to actually fix our problems.
We need to be accountable, and we need to understand that some problems
are incredibly complex. So few things in this world are black and white. We
live in the gray, and we need to understand that. It means that we can’t always
point the finger and pass the issue along. Sometimes, we just have to deal with
it and fix it ourselves. And honestly, sometimes when we do know whose fault it
is, we can’t make them fix it and/or they won’t fix it. We have to move on and
start being a part of the solution.
Okay, venting done, back to the routine.
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